A Woman that Fears YAHUAH
The Ornament of a Meek & Quiet Spirit
The Ornament of a Meek & Quiet Spirit
A woman must bear up under many cares and burdens in a single day. She has a husband to please, children to nurture, train and educate, and a home to maintain. Her call is not just to perform her duty, but in that duty, bring glory to Elohim in the way she responds to those YAHUAH has entrusted to her. If she is lacking the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit she will have cause to be in constant irritation, being easily provoked daily. While governing our families, we are in need of this grace in order to keep our own spirit under control.
Meekness is spoken of as an adornment that is incorruptible ( 1 Peter 3:3-5). Unlike the adornment of our clothes which fade with the wearing, the graces of the hidden man become stronger in time. It is a softness of temper, a gentleness, forbearance under provocation and injuries, void of passion, pride and immoderate anger. The work and office of meekness enable us to control our own anger when we are provoked, and patiently bear the anger of others while not allowing it to excite anger or cause resentment in us. It is the fruit of the Set-Apart Spirit.
I have found strength in memorizing a portion from “The Christian’s Daily Walk” by Henry Scudder on how to discern if one’s anger is sinful or not. YAHUAH will bring it to remembrance at times when I have felt the heat of my anger rise. I pray you will find it helpful.
Anger is sinful when:
First, It is without cause: as when neither Elohim is dishonored, nor your neighbor or yourself indeed injured; when it is for trifles, and only because you are crossed in your will and desire, and the like; but chiefly when you are angry with any for well doing, 1 Kings xxii.24-26.
Secondly, Though you have cause, yet if it extinguish your love to the person with whom you are angry; so that you neglect the common and needful offices thereof.
Thirdly, When it exceeds due measure, as when it is over much, and over long.
Fourthly, It is sinful when it brings forth evil and unseemly effects, such as neglect, or ill performance of any duty to Elohim or man; also when it breaks out into loud, clamorous, or reviling speeches, or into churlish, sullen, or indecent behavior, or when it is attended with any injurious act.
A true woman of Elohim’s work begins in the ordering and commanding of her own spirit. The attributes of the inner man are a woman’s chief ornament, they are what the world truly sees. We may put on expensive or fashionable garments to adorn ourselves, but only a composed calm, and quiet spirit will render a woman lovely and beautiful.
Meekness is a work of the spirit and is freely given at the feet of Yahuah-Shua. It is a garment only He can prepare for us. We must lay and submit ourselves under the influence of it. Messiah commands that we follow after it (1 Tim. 6:11). As we pray in faith believing, YAHUAH will supply us with His grace to display meekness in our words, in our looks, and in our actions toward our children and husband.
May Messiah adorn us in meekness and present us to our families clothed in His gentleness.
A Woman that Fears YAHUAH
When Husbands Hurt Us
I believe two of the greatest truths Elohim has taught me on keeping peace in my marriage is to not:
1. Take up offense
Proverbs 19:11: A man’s discretion makes him slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook a transgression.
2. Not to retaliate
Matt. 5:39: “But I say to you, do not resist him who is evil; but whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn to him the other also.
The beginning years of our marriage were spent fighting and fussing’ with one another. Something would be said in a tone that the other spouse didn’t like, then they would pop off with a smart remark and then the fight was on. As I matured in YAHUAH I eventually developed a small amount of self-control (by Elohim’s grace) and began to hold my tongue but my heart was still not right because I remained bitter against my husband. I began to see that I was still taking up offense because I would keep my distance by pull away from him emotionally and physically. Without realizing it, this became my way of repaying him for the wrong I felt he had done to me.
Wives have many sinful weapons that we use to punish our husband’s if we feel they have done us wrong. A cold stare, an unkind remark, silence, a sullen distant mood and withholding intimacy both physically and emotionally.
The world we live in promotes and encourages this. Just happen on an afternoon talk show and you’ll see how audiences seem to thrive on one person standing up for their rights to another. But, as wise, Godly women know, Elohim’s ways are not man’s ways and the fruit of those kind of actions bring nothing but strife and discord to a marriage.
As believers we continue to learn that the way of the kingdom is so opposite from what our flesh wants to do. We desire to make our husbands pay for the hurt they have caused us. We don’t always think of it in those terms but when we turn from them in our hearts and harbor bitter resentment then that is exactly what we are doing. But, our Elohim tells us that as His children we must “turn to him the other cheek.” Matt. 5:39 Have you really thought about what that scripture says? Yahuah-Shua is basically saying, “instead of avenging yourselves , prepare for another assault, and bear it patiently.” That is really what it is saying, isn’t it? If someone struck us on the cheek and we turned to him the other cheek then we are prepared for another assault.
How many times will we offend others in this lifetime? How many times will we offend our own husbands, even on a daily basis? Can we not reasonably expect that our husbands, who are sinners just as we are, will also offend us.
Proverbs 20:22 – Do not say, “I will repay evil”; wait for YAHUAH, and He will save you.
Matthew Henry says concerning Proverbs 20:22, “Never say that thou wilt do a thing which thou canst not in faith pray to Elohim to assist thee in.”
I believe it will quench that desire to retaliate if we stop and ask ourselves if we could pray for Elohim to assist us in our attitude towards our husband. I know in all honesty I could not pray, “Lord, please help me to really give my husband the cold shoulder. Help me to ignore him when he asks me a question. Help me to look at him in a way that makes him feel 2 feet tall.” Yea, I can really see myself praying THAT prayer. * Smile *
I know that this topic brings up many questions in our minds. All the ’what ifs’ concerning abuse. I’d like to say before we continue that I am not advocating a woman to stand by as she or her child are physically being struck. Please understand that the area I am dealing with today has to do with our every day relationships with our dear husbands where an unkind word is said (maybe even harsh), or perhaps an angry, impatient, demanding tone is displayed or a neglecting of a duty towards us.
Perhaps he has spoken to a child harshly or given an unfair punishment. We are all guilty of these gestures, either in heart or deed, so I am not signaling out our husbands as being the only offenders. What I am saying is that there is a time, within the daily routine of our days, that we can count on our husband’s offending us. Why not cover some ( a multitude) of these offenses with love? Pr. 10:12, 1 Peter 4:8 There are those times that a husband may need to be exhorted or rebuked if a sin persists and that sin is causing damage to the church’s reputation or his personal relationships.
But, that is not what we are talking about here. I’m talking about the small offence’s that can and should be easily overlooked and covered with love.
My husband and I have practiced laying down our rights for each other and as a result Elohim has done things in our marriage that I only dreamed of at one time. We truly have become each others best friend. This kind of marriage does not come without a price. That price is a giving up of our rights for Elohim’s will to be done. Daily we are learning to lay our lives down for each other, to deny ourselves in order to bring joy to the other one and glory to Elohim. We are daily learning to not take up offense when the other spouse blows it but to instead pray for that person and to ask Elohim to help them in their time of need. YAHUAH is teaching us to put on a spirit of meekness and long-suffering instead of strife and the pride of demanding our own rights.
Eph 4:31-32 Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. And be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as Elohim in Messiah also has forgiven you.
Elohim’s grace is the only power sufficient to achieve this kind of response to an injustice. It does not come out of our own strength. It’s impossible without Elohim’s indwelling presence. We need Him to work in us to will and to do His good pleasure. Phil. 2:13 Without Him we can do nothing. Continually we must call out to Him for His strength and wisdom to know when to keep our mouths shut and to die to the desire of our flesh to repay our husbands for their wrong. Oh, but what glorious fragrance when the life that is pouring forth from us is not our flesh but the life of Messiah. A fragrance that permeates our homes and the lives of all those who come in contact with us. Elohim will only be seen in our lives to the degree that we are willing to die and allow His life to come forth.
Scriptures to memorize:
Prov 24:29 – Say not, I will do so to him as he hath done to me: I will render to the man according to his work.
Prov 20:22 – Say not thou, I will recompense evil; but wait on YAHUAH, and he shall save thee.
Matt 5:38-48 Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth: But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also. And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloak also.
And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain. Give to him that asketh thee, and from him that would borrow of thee turn not thou away. Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbor, and hate thine enemy.
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust. For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same? And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so? Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.
“Has YAHUAH as much pleasure in your burnt offerings and sacrifices as in your obedience? Obedience is far better than sacrifice. He is much more interested in your listening to him than in your offering the fat of rams to him. For rebellion is as bad as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as bad as worshipping idols…”
1 Samuel 15:22, 23
Obedience / Disobedience
Obedience is the practical acceptance of the authority and will of Elohim. It includes both submitting to Him and then expressing that submission in actions, words and thoughts. To be obedient is to be in agreement with Elohim. To be in agreement with Elohim is to be in a position of power in Messiah.
Disobedience is caused by rebellion and distrust of Elohim. To be disobedient is to yield to self-will instead of surrendering to Elohim and desiring His will in all things. Elohim expects obedience (Deuteronomy 11:26-28). To choose Messiah is to choose obedience (John 14:15,21). To become disobedient is to sin or rebel against Elohim (I Samuel 15:22,23).
What Scripture Says
“See, I am setting before you today a blessing and a curse — the blessing if you obey the commands of YAHUAH your Elohim that I am giving you today; the curse if you disobey the commands of YAHUAH your Elohim and turn from the way that I command you today by following other Elohims, which you have not known” (Deuteronomy 11:26-28).
“But Samuel replied: Does YAHUAH delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices as much as in obeying the voice of YAHUAH? To obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed is better than the fat of rams.
For rebellion is like the sin of divination, and arrogance like the evil of idolatry. Because you have rejected the word of YAHUAH, he has rejected you as king” (I Samuel 15:22,23).
“If you are willing and obedient, you will eat the best from the land” (Isaiah 1:19).”If you love me, you will obey what I command….Whoever has my commands, and obeys them he is the one who loves me. He who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love him and show myself to him” (John 14:15,21).
“Why do you call me, “Master, Master, and do not do what I say?” (Luke 6:46)
“Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says” (James 1:22).
How To Correct The Sin of Disobedience.
The following suggestions should help you discover areas of either deliberate or subconscious disobedience to Elohim and to those in authority over you. Begin by asking yourself whether you are obeying Elohim in different areas of your life, such as personal relationships, your behavior, Elohim’s lordship in your marriage or job or other areas, personal devotions, etc. Take an honest inventory of your life.
Thank Elohim for areas of disobedience you may discover. Once identified, they can be removed. This will result in new joy and greater faith. “And we know that in all things Elohim works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28). “Always giving thanks to Elohim the Father for everything, in the name of our Sovereign Yahuah-Shua Messiah” (Ephesians 5:20). “Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is Elohim’s will for you in Messiah Yahuah-Shua” (I Thessalonians 5:18).
Confess the disobedience as sin. Ask Elohim for forgiveness and claim His promise of complete pardon. “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness” (I John 1:9). If your act of disobedience involves others who are in authority over you, you must rectify the situation with them.
The Scriptures teach that we can and should live at peace with ourselves and others. Disobedience to Elohim and those in authority over you can block the joy, blessings and inner peace which Elohim desires for you.
Use your will to relinquish each specific act of disobedience. Denounce even the desire to be disobedient. As Paul did, compel your flesh and its soulishness to obey. The Scriptures say that as a Followers of Messiah, you have mighty weapons of warfare which will break down walls of disobedience. Rely on the faith of Yahuah-Shua and the power of the Holy Spirit.
Plan specific actions. Ask forgiveness of others, make amends where needed. “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law” (Galatians 5:22,23). As each of these qualities develops in you, you will find not only the sin of disobedience fading, but other sins as well.
As You Pray
Pray that the fruit of the Spirit, faithfulness to Elohim and other people, be produced within you.
Thank and praise Elohim for revealing your disobedience to you and for giving you meekness (submissiveness) and love for Him and others — even your enemies. Rejoice in your new freedom and joy in YAHUAH as you realize that you are free from bondage of disobedience.
I John 5:2,3
Test of obedience and love
Admonition to emulate Yahuah-Shua
David’s example of new obedience to Elohim
Take a piece of paper and draw a vertical line down the center. To the left of the line list the areas in which you have been disobedient. To the right of the line list the alternatives of obedience. Begin to act on the alternatives, forming new life patterns.
The Dangers Of Rebellion
Rebellion is an open door to demonic bondage
Rebellion is an open door to the demonic in a person’s life. The Scriptures strictly warn us against rebellion, and it’s consequences are not to be taken lightly. Elohim’s Word tells us that rebellion is in the same category of sin as witchcraft itself:
1 Samuel 15:23, “For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft…”
The word witchcraft above is translated back to the Greek word qesem, which not only includes literal witchcraft itself, but also divination. Both of these practices are highly demonic. I believe it is clear in the following verse that those who practice true divination have a demonic spirit:
Acts 16:16, “And it came to pass, as we went to prayer, a certain damsel possessed with a spirit of divination met us, which brought her masters much gain by soothsaying.”
Now let me ask you this: Is witchcraft an open door to the demonic in a person’s life? If so, why wouldn’t rebellion also be an open door, being that Elohim put both of them in the same category?
Elohim’s Word even comes out more clearly and tells us that a cruel messenger will be sent against the rebellious:
Proverbs 17:11, “An evil man seeketh only rebellion: therefore a cruel messenger shall be sent against him.”
Who is this cruel messenger? I believe it’s the same kind of messenger that is spoken of in Matthew 18:34-35 when speaking of turning the unforgiving person over to tormenters:
Matthew 18:34-35, “And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him. So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.”
Rebellion cuts a person off from Elohim
Elohim’s Word is clear that rebellion is a great way to find yourself in dry land spiritually:
Psalms 68:6, “…the rebellious dwell in a dry land.”
It is bad enough to be rebellious, but anybody who curses their father or mother shall come under a curse, and find themselves in obscure darkness:
Proverbs 20:20, “Whoso curseth his father or his mother, his lamp shall be put out in obscure darkness.”
The Scriptures are clear that a man who is rebellious, is a man who’s heart is not right with Elohim:
Psalms 78:8, “And might not be as their fathers, a stubborn and rebellious generation; a generation that set not their heart aright, and whose spirit was not steadfast with Elohim.”
Elohim’s Word is clear that judgment will come upon the rebellious:
Ezekiel 3:26, “And I will make thy tongue cleave to the roof of thy mouth, that thou shalt be dumb, and shalt not be to them a reprover: for they are a rebellious house.”
This reminds me of the demons that Yahuah-Shua cast out of people which caused them to be dumb (unable to speak)!
Elohim has also shown me that rebellion shuts a person’s ears from being able to hear Elohim when He tries to speak to them. The following verse also makes this clear:
Ezekiel 12:2, “Son of man, thou dwellest in the midst of a rebellious house, which have eyes to see, and see not; they have ears to hear, and hear not: for they are a rebellious house.”
In the above verse, it is important to notice how it also emphasizes that rebellious house has eyes, but cannot see. Rebellion allows the Elohim of this world (which is Satan, whom works through his network of demonic spirits) to blind our spiritual eyes. When our spiritual eyesight is blinded, our discernment suffers greatly. This is a dangerous position for anybody to be in.
2 Corinthians 4:4, “In whom the Elohim of this world hath blinded the minds of them which believe not, lest the light of the glorious gospel of Messiah, who is the image of Elohim, should shine unto them.”
Isaiah 30 addresses rebellion
1 Woe to the rebellious children, saith YAHUAH, that take counsel, but not of me; and that cover with a covering, but not of my spirit, that they may add sin to sin:
2 That walk to go down into Egypt, and have not asked at my mouth; to strengthen themselves in the strength of Pharaoh, and to trust in the shadow of Egypt! (The rebellious run to the unholy for advise, counseling and support)
3 Therefore shall the strength of Pharaoh be your shame, and the trust in the shadow of Egypt your confusion.
4 For his princes were at Zoan, and his ambassadors came to Hanes.
5 They were all ashamed of a people that could not profit them, nor be a help nor profit, but a shame, and also a reproach.
6 The burden of the beasts of the south: into the land of trouble and anguish, from whence come the young and old lion, the viper and fiery flying serpent, they will carry their riches upon the shoulders of young asses, and their treasures upon the bunches of camels, to a people that shall not profit them.
7 For the Egyptians shall help in vain, and to no purpose: therefore have I cried concerning this, Their strength is to sit still.
8 Now go, write it before them in a table, and note it in a book, that it may be for the time to come forever and ever:
9 That this is a rebellious people, lying children, children that will not hear the law of YAHUAH:
10 Which say to the seers, See not; and to the prophets, Prophesy not unto us right things, speak unto us smooth things, prophesy deceits:
11 Get you out of the way, turn aside out of the path, cause the Holy One of Israel to cease from before us.
12 Wherefore thus saith the Set-Apart One of Israel, Because ye despise this word, and trust in oppression and perverseness, and stay thereon:
13 Therefore this iniquity shall be to you as a breach ready to fall, swelling out in a high wall, whose breaking cometh suddenly at an instant.
14 And he shall break it as the breaking of the potter’s vessel that is broken in pieces; he shall not spare: so that there shall not be found in the bursting of it a shard to take fire from the hearth, or to take water withal out of the pit.
15 For thus saith YAHUAH ELOHIM, the set-apart One of Israel; In returning and rest shall ye be saved; in quietness and in confidence shall be your strength: and ye would not.
16 But ye said, No; for we will flee upon horses; therefore shall ye flee: and, We will ride upon the swift; therefore shall they that pursue you be swift.
17 One thousand shall flee at the rebuke of one; at the rebuke of five shall ye flee: till ye be left as a beacon upon the top of a mountain, and as an ensign on a hill.
Forsake rebellion today!
If you have been rebellious, then stop! Forsake your rebellion and turn to YAHUAH. Repent of thy ways, that ye shall receive mercy. Rebellion is an open door to demonic spirits in a person’s life. Elohim’s Word warns us that rebellion darkens your spiritual eyesight (discernment), and it deafens your ears to hear Elohim’s voice.